You discover you’re free spontaneously after driving down a country road on your way home and pulling over for gas. You fill up your tank and are about to leave but choose to go inside the general store instead.
In that country general store, you find rows upon rows of things, going farther back, back, back. It’s bigger than you imagined. You wander through the aisles and mistake it for a hardware store. You pass by shelves full of boots.
You can buy boots here, you think. You can buy everything here.
Then you see the shirts.
They’re hunting shirts covered in nature patterns. You touch one with long sleeves and see it’s in your size.
What if I bought a hunting shirt? You let out a laugh at the back of the general store. You check the price, thinking it’ll be expensive and you’ll have to find your whimsy elsewhere. The tag, scrawled with sharpie ink, reads $7.99.
You have to get it.
It was meant to be.
You carry the shirt through the many misaligned aisles of the store with a small smile on your face. You don’t look like someone who hunts. You look like a queer who isn’t from around here. The tools, nuts, and bolts look back at you on your way to the cash. You greet the cashier, who folds your purchase without giving you a second glance. They must get all kinds off the highway. Your shirt comes to just over $9 with tax.
You hold it to your chest and walk excitedly back to your car. Your small smile breaks large, and you begin to laugh. You place the folded shirt neatly on the back seat, get behind the wheel, and pull back onto the October road, leaves all a-colour around you.
I just bought a hunting shirt. You don’t hunt. You’re a vegetarian.
You end up joining a line of cars following a great old truck when you discover you’re free.
You’ve been chasing this feeling for your entire life, but it’s not one you can arrange or orchestrate. It comes upon you unexpectedly and stays for a few fleeting moments.
You’re on the highway, in a line of cars led by a big old truck. The trees are orange, yellow, green, and red. Everywhere that isn’t road is trees. Your new shirt sits folded on the back seat.
The radio plays hits from another decade.
Your mouth plays laughter.
Your eyes play across the dashboard, the cars, the trees.
I wrote a poem the other day as I was on my way out the door that included this stanza:
It’s important to go out at odd times sometimes To break from your routine Remind yourself you’re not locked in That there’s a whole big world just waiting
Writers and other creative types often talk about the importance of establishing a routine. While I agree that routines are undoubtedly helpful and even necessary, I think it’s just as essential to break from them on occasion. I’m a creature of habit and an introvert. It can be easy for me to unintentionally structure my life so that every day looks the same. When I do this, the tea I drink every morning begins to taste bland. I wake up with a tired to-do list already formed in my head. I start to feel restless and crave adventure, desiring whatever will take me away from my computer.
I need routine and structure to function. I’ve tried living without it, and I don’t do so well with that either, but I think having an overly rigid routine can also be an issue.
On my days off, I write, edit, and do my other creative work in the mornings. On my days at my paid job, I may do creative work in the evenings if I have the energy, but most of it gets done on my days off. I tend to be protective of this time. I try to schedule social events and other engagements in the late afternoons or evenings so I can hold this time aside for my art. However, I occasionally make exceptions when opportunities for fun activities or adventures come up.
Missing one or two writing days used to stress me out. I’d feel guilty and like I was falling behind, even though I don’t adhere to specific deadlines. I’d worry that if I missed too many days in a row, I’d lose the creative practice I’ve painstakingly developed. I’d think I wasn’t a “real” or “good” writer if I didn’t follow my routine to a T.
I can still feel bummed out when life takes me away from writing, but I’ve learned that can sometimes be a good thing. Breaking from routine and going on an adventure can be inspiring. It can add that extra splash of flavour to my life I need to create and keep things from tasting bland. It can allow me to feel liberated creatively and get unstuck mentally. And often, after some time away from my work, I’m eager to dive back in, equipped with new ideas.
Having a routine is necessary. I’d never get my work done if I didn’t. I need to consistently set aside time, but occasionally, I should let life take me away from this structure as well. I need to let the waves lapping at my feet carry me out to sea because that’s where the inspiration is. That’s where the life is! And life is where art comes from. I don’t want to become so fixated on making art that I forget to live my life. There’s a balance to this. Have a routine and stick with it as much as possible but don’t close yourself off to new opportunities, experiences, and adventures. Adventures are where the art is.
If you find yourself stuck and in need of inspiration, try letting go of your routine for a day or two. Walk into the ocean, find the waves, and see what happens.
Content Note: This piece includes mention of suicidal ideation.
That’s odd. The lit mag I was planning to submit to tagged me in something online. What’s this? I click the link they shared, and it’s my poem. They published my poem, but I hadn’t sent it in yet. How did they—?
I search through my email and find the chain, my submission from six weeks ago and their acceptance. I have no memory of this exchange. I review my files and find the document I use to track my submissions. It’s there as well, recorded alongside others I actually remember. What the hell? I had planned to work on the poem today and submit it sometime next week. How could I have forgottenI’d already done that? I guess I’ve been pretty stressed lately. Work’s been giving me the runaround.
I go back to their post and open the link again. There it is—my poem. The fog of confusion begins to clear, and a feeling of elation sweeps over me. The editors said they loved it in their acceptance email. They loved it, and here it is, proudly displayed on their website. This is my first publication in over a year. I click to share it on my own page and write, “So happy to have a poem in this issue! Thanks so much, @inkandash.”
This is a little strange, sure, but what does it matter? The important thing is thatI’djust gotten published! I text my mom to let her know and send her the link. Look, mom! I’m famous!
Aside from my enthusiastic sharing and my mom’s gushing, the poem did not get much attention. A few other emerging writers liked andcommented on the piece, but that was it. This was fine with me. I didn’t expect it to go viral or anything. It wasa poem in an indie mag, after all. I was just happy to get published for once. It made the last year of rejections feel worth it. It renewed my energy and enthusiasm for writing. Running on this high, I decided to double the number of submissions I make each month. It’s probably just a numbers thing, right? Submit to enough places, and you’re bound to get published eventually.
I make a list of journals I want to submit to, an ambitious list. Some of them are smaller publications, like Ink and Ash, with which I stand a better chance. Some are in the big leagues, the mags that receive 1,000s of submissions during their reading periods. Might as well try, right? It can’t hurt to try.
It can’t hurt.
I add the last journal to the list, which includes details such as word count, themes, and deadlines. There are precisely one hundred mags on the list. If I’m right and it is a numbers game, perhaps I can hope to get published in 5-10% of them. That’d be five to ten publications, which would be huge for me. It’ll be a lot of work, just putting the list together took several afternoons, but it will be worth it. I’ll be able to slog through all the rejections because I have a glimmer of hope on the horizon now, that of the sparing acceptances. I am going to cement my status as a published writer. I’m not expecting money or prestige. Most of these journals are unpaid. I mainly write poetry and creative non-fiction, which isn’t the kind of work you can typically make a living off of, but I am going to get my work out there. Maybe it will get easier as editors begin to learn my name. Who knows!
I open up the doc with the list and prepare to dive in. My phone pings. No, no distractions. It’s time to focus. Wait, what if that’s Jerry getting back to me about tonight? Compulsively, I grab my phone to check, intending to silence it as soon as I’m done. It’s an email from the journal at the top of my list. That’s weird.
Congratulations on the publication of your piece! You can check it out on our website now. Please let us know if you notice any formatting or presentation issues.
Thanks again for choosing us as the home for your work!
As I read, the hairs begin to stand up on the back of my neck. Is this a joke? I know for sure that I haven’t submitted anything to them yet. I click the link. There it is, the poem I wrote a few months ago about the ocean and my relationship with my father. The one I’d been planning to send them, except I’dwanted to make a few edits first, which I see haven’t been made. This poem had felt a little too raw and revealing. It includes a few lines about my dad I wanted to reword or remove, which glare at me from the screen. Oh, shit. I hope he doesn’t read this.
I open up my submission tracking doc. According to that, I submitted this poem last month. I didn’t even know about this mag last month … I’dlearned about it a few days ago when making my list. I go through my emails and find the acceptance from the mag but not my original submission. I must’ve used an online form or something. I decide to reach out to them to see if I can make some edits to the piece and get those harsh lines out of there. They write back within a few hours.
Unfortunately, we cannot make any edits to the piece at this time, just its presentation. We’re sorry to hear you want those lines removed. As we mentioned during our conversation, we think they’re the strongest part of the piece! It’s normal to feel post-publication jitters, but those should fade with time. You should be proud of what you wrote! It’s incredibly powerful.
Our conversation? I search my email again but find nothing. Had we spoken over the phone? I have no memory of this, just like last time.
Something is wrong.
I decide to book an appointment with my therapist. I stopped seeing him regularly last year after we reached a natural conclusion while working through some of my issues together. He’d told me not to hesitate to reach out if something else came up, and what’s happening now is definitely something else.
“These memory lapses are certainly concerning. Have they been happening in any other areas of your life?”
His voice comes through my headphones crisp and clear, unlike his image on my screen, which appears to be made up of just five or six pixels. I try to focus on his voice instead.
“Not that I’ve noticed.”
“And you’ve been feeling more anxious lately?”
“Well, yeah, this has been super weird. I’m suddenly getting published, but it’s like I’m not in control of it.”
“Mm. Finally getting your work out there must feel vulnerable. You are not in control of how it will be received.”
“No, and it doesn’t seem like I’m in control of getting it out there either!”
“You’re not in control, and it seems like that scares you. You’ve been an anonymous, emerging writer for a long time. That’s become a part of your identity. Do you think, perhaps, that you are afraid to emerge? Are you scared of your own success? Now that you are getting what you want, is it possible that your mind is playing tricks on you as a form of unconscious self-sabotage?”
Why would I be sabotaging myself? I want this. I’m finally getting what I’ve worked so hard for, the recognition I deserve. Shouldn’t I just be happy? Maybe my therapist is right. Perhaps I am afraid, deeply afraid, of my own success …
Whether or not I’m ready for it, my success is here. Numerous pieces, some of which have been sitting in my drafts for years, start coming out in small and even mid-sized publications. My follower count grows, and my name starts to spark recognition in some corners of the writing community. As often as a few times a week, I open up my computer to find that I’ve been tagged in something new.
Congratulations on the publication of your piece! Congratulations on the piece! Congratulations!
It is with a mixture of dread and dark thrill that I check every day. The memory lapses remain. I never recall submitting anything, but the digital paper trail is usually there when I check. That’s just my self-sabotage, right? My fear of success. I don’t book another appointment with my therapist even after he leaves a few follow-up voicemails.
It is often the case that the pieces are not edited as I would have liked. To me, they look half-finished. To my growing audience of fans, apparently, they’re perfect. Increasingly, other discrepancies begin to appear as well. Sometimes, there are lines or whole paragraphs that I do not remember writing. It becomes harder to recognize my work, but I am always tagged and credited. My name always appears at the top of the page. My name, which is coming to mean something. My name, which is getting away from me.
I wake up in the morning with a sinking feeling in my stomach. My stomach has been tied in knots lately, so this isn’t anything new, but it’s extra pronounced today. Something is coming. I look over at my laptop sitting innocently on my desk. What news will it bring today? Which unfamiliar words will I see under my name?
There’s a new piece, an essay this time. I don’t recognize the title. Perhaps that was an editorial change? I begin to read. Paragraph after paragraph, I witness from the sidelines as I argue for something I don’t even believe. In the piece, I come down hard on one side of a controversy. I don’t remember writing this. I don’t remember thinking this. These aren’t my words. This isn’t me.
It is divisive. Half my audience praises me for having the courage to speak out, while the other half condemns me. How dare I? How dare I? They begin to pick apart my words and demand I explain myself. What did I mean by this? What did I mean by that? Threads form listing off every problematic element they can find, and essays get published critiquing my own. More people join in, and they start scrutinizing previous pieces of mine as well.Soon, the criticism far outweighs the praise, which begins to recede into the background.
I don’t know how to respond. Every time Isit at my computer to write, the screen begins to shake. It appears to glitch, pixels wiggling back and forth. I cannot focus on anything, make it stay still, or see well enough to type. My vision blurs in response, and I need to lie down until the dizziness passes.
My critics demand a statement, and I cannot give it to them. I say nothing, remain silent. I don’t know where my voice has gone or how to find it.My silence is interpreted by some as “refusing to be accountable.”
Due to the immense backlash, the publication pulls my piece and issues a statement of their own where they apologize for having platformed me. But it’s too little, too late,and everything on the internet is forever. People have screenshots that circle endlessly. Other journals also begin pulling old pieces of mine and issuing statements about how they’ll no longer work with me. My mentions, comments, and DMs are flooded. It is a tidal wave, and it threatens to wash me away.
I get called into the HR office at work. My employer does not want to be associated with such controversy. Apparently, I am in violation of their social media policy, a vague document that essentially boils down to, “Don’t post anything online that could make us look bad.” They’ve received a large volume of calls and emails about me, with some even coming from concerned clients. They ask if I understand their policy and the difficult position I’ve put them in. They explain that I represent their company even when I’m not at work. My name, which has gotten away from me, also belongs to them. They think it would be best if we parted ways. They ask me to clean out my desk.
When I get home, I Google my name. How will I ever find work again with search results like these?
I am frozen, frozen, frozen. I stay silent, silent, silent. What can I say? What can I do?
It gets worse. I start receiving threats. People write that they want to hurt me and about what they will do if they ever come across me. Some encourage me to end my life. I am worthless, less than nothing. I am a Bad Guy, and they want me to go away. They don’t care where. Just away.
I lose friends. Some write me short messages to say they can’t be connected to me anymore. Some ghost and leave me on read. Some simply block me. No one will talk to me, but I suppose that’s alright because it’s not like I canspeak anyway. I cannot give them what they want, cannot make it stop.
My address gets posted online, and the threats I’ve received certainly don’t feel empty.
I know I should go back to my therapist, but I cannot pick up the phone and respond to his voicemails. What would I do in another session anyway? Sit there silently? I cannot provide answers or account for any of it. The words I am being targeted for are not my own. I didn’t write them. How can I explain that? There is nothing, nothing, nothing to explain. I am nothing.
I find myself thinking about the end. It becomes a fantasy, an escape—the only thing that brings me peace. The details begin to form. The when, the where, the how. This fantasy is scary but also seductive. It’s the only thing that feels good, and it feels so good. To end it, to make it stop. I just need to make it stop. How else can I make it stop?
I take down my website and delete all of my social media. I scrub as much of myself off the internet as I can. I am not a writer, never was. My words were not my own. Why did I want this so badly? Why did I spend years trying to get people to pay attention when this is how it would end? They’re paying attention now. My work is out there. People know my name.
They know where I live, and they’re coming for me. I pack a bag and head to the train station where I buy a ticket for far away. I sit on the train. People get on and off, and I do not look at them. I look out the window and watch the world blend. The scenery unfolds—city after small town after farmland. It makes no difference to me. I am numb. I sit with nothing and look out the window.
I fall into something resembling sleep, some cortisol-infused half-dreaming, and am eventually woken by an announcement. We have stopped at the smallest station I’ve ever seen in a place with a name I’ve never heard before. It’s perfect. I get off the train.
I do not have to walk far beforecoming across a seedy-looking motel by the side of a two-lane highway, where I check in. The person at the front desk barely speaks to me and doesn’t make eye contact. They don’t know who I am, and they don’t care. Theylikely wouldn’t even understand what was considered controversial about what I “wrote.”
My room is dirty. The bed sags, and I check it for bugs. There’s a crack in the mirror and a questionable stain in the tub. The A/C doesn’t work, and the windows won’t open. It is exactly what I need. They won’t find me here. They can’t reach me.
Days slip by and turn into weeks. I’ll run out of money at some point, but what does it matter? I sleep fitfully until there comes a night when I cannot sleep at all. I pull out my laptop, which has otherwise gone untouched. I open up a word doc and begin to write.
I tell my story. I type out every detail I can remember. How I started getting published seemingly out of nowhere with no memory of submitting anything. How pieces began to appear that weren’tedited to my liking, then lines I don’t remember writing, and eventually, that entire fateful essay. I don’t care if it’s believable. I don’t care what people think. This isn’t for them.
Hours pass. Thousands of words pour onto the page. I get it all out, all of the gunk. Then, I collapse.
A few days later, I find myself sitting with my laptop in a cafe, resurrecting my website. I pull it out of the archives and breathe life back into its digital being. I publish the piece I’ve written and then walk away.
A week passes before I return to my apartment and go back online. When I do, I find that my essay has received some positive attention. People seem to like it. They also think it’s a work of fiction. I Google my name again, and the results are benign. No hit pieces, no calls for accountability, no publications even … Where has it all gone?
I look at the journals that had published me and cannot find a trace of my work anywhere. Had everyone pulled everything? I search through my inbox and cannot find the emails—all those emails where I submitted pieces, received acceptances, and negotiated with editors are gone. They’re all gone.
It’s all over.
I don’t know how to account for what happened to me. I do know that I barely survived it. I’m also afraid it will happen again. One wrong word or move, one out-of-place sentence or forgotten piece, could trigger another tidal wave. I don’t know if I could get through the next one. I book an appointment with my therapist, planning to tell him and only him that my mildly successful blog post isn’t fiction.
I’m not sure I know how to keep creating after what I went through. How does one write under a constant state of threat? How can I keep doing this if I cannot rely on my memory or trust in my words? How do I move forward as a creator when I’ve tasted the salt of a tidal wave that could wash over me again at any time? I do not have the answers. I only know that I am a writer, and I must write. This was never really about the publications or my name. It’s about the words themselves—the ones that are trapped inside, that I must let out. Maybe, just maybe, the writing itself is enough.
People like my work of “fiction,” and I am proud of it, in a way. It is my show of survival. When I arrived at that last stop and had nothing else to give, nothing else to live for, I wrote. Those words gave me a reason to keep going. Even while the whole world appeared to despise me, writing did not. The words were elusive for a while, but they came back to me. They will always come back to me, even when I have nothing else.
I decide to submit my story to a small journal, one based only a few hours away from the little town I stayed in. I’m nervous. I don’t know if this is the right decision. I have no idea what might happen. I make the final edits, write my cover letter, and prepare to give up control. Dear Editors … This is a – word piece called … Thank you for considering …
My mom says that when she’s feeling stuck with her art, she switches mediums, which always helps. Sometimes, I take pictures rather than write poems. I go for walks and film artistic interpretations of fountains. I colour while listening to podcasts or the chatter of my friends. I apply paint inexpertly to canvas.
I am a writer first and foremost, but not all of my art can be writing. Writing is cerebral, and sometimes I need to get out of my head.
I also switch up the what and how of my writing. I type type type on my laptop. I scribble in my notebook. I stop on a walk to poke at my phone. I focus on poetry. I pen essays. Occasionally, the odd short story comes out. I change topics and themes. I make zines. I self-publish and submit to journals. I write short pieces for Instagram and long ones for my blog. I create graphics that combine the written and the visual.
This is how I keep going–keep writing, keep creating. This is how I keep from getting stuck. Creativity isn’t static. It needs to ebb and flow to function. Getting too rigid results in becoming blocked. I have to accommodate my changing moods, interests, desires, and ideas.
Of course, this doesn’t mean having no follow-through. I still do my best to consistently show up to my practice and complete the projects I start. It just means I approach things with a certain degree of fluidity. My ultimate goal is to keep creating. How exactly I go about that is what changes. When I feel stuck with my art, I switch mediums, which always helps.